The Confidence Rollercoaster

Today I wanted to talk about confidence and the absolute rollercoaster it can be. If you are anything like me, you have experienced highs and lows when it comes to confidence and self-esteem over the span of your lifetime.
I want to make it clear from the get-go that I have been on both ends of the spectrum when it comes to this subject, specifically when we are talking about how makeup can affect our confidence, and I don’t think one extreme is better than the other. For those wondering… no, my self-confidence is not and never has been super high, but I am much more at peace with myself now than I have been in years past, and if you want to talk to someone who gets it, please know you can always contact me whether through email or social media. I am always here to listen and uplift!

Before I became pregnant with my first child, I rarely left the house without a full face of makeup on. It was just a part of my everyday routine, which typically took about an hour to an hour and a half. This was partially because I am passionate about makeup and it is fun for me (Cosmetologist here!), but was also out of necessity. Maybe you are wondering why I say it was part necessity… well, it was what I needed to do at that time to feel good about myself. Do you want to know what that looked like for me? Well, I have inserted the photo to the left so you can get an idea of what that typical full face of makeup looked like all those years ago.
Fast forward a few years and I was basically the complete opposite! During that first pregnancy, I may have worn a full face of makeup all of two times! One of those times being for my maternity photo session! I’m not sure if it was due to feeling lazy and tired all the time or if it was because the thought of having something on my skin made me itch all over… maybe it was a combination of the two. But the more I went bare-faced, the more confidence I had in being bare-faced. You could say I even began to gain a sense of pride in not wearing makeup because never before had I been completely unbothered by it. Believe it or not, I couldn’t find many photos from that time period that were not baby bump photos, but I did find this mirror selfie taken only three days before I went into labor! From this photo, you can tell I was not wearing any makeup and my skin was not perfect (no one’s is!).

Then postpartum hit, like a bag of bricks.
I went through what was simultaneously the happiest and hardest year of my life. You see, I struggled with Postpartum Anxiety, and even though I was over the moon to be a mother and was absolutely in love with my little guy, most days were psychologically difficult. Thankfully, I did find help that has continued to work for me, but that is a story for another day. My point in sharing all of that is this: between the state my mental health was in, the constant milk stains running down my pjs, and not seeming to be able to shower daily any longer (if you know, you know), my confidence was at an all time low… back to square one, you could say!
Finally, I put together a quick makeup routine that only took five minutes and helped me feel 100x better about myself! Now, I know makeup isn’t necessarily the key to moms looking or even feeling their best, but during a time when I hardly recognized myself anymore, it helped me feel like me again. Dare I say, it even helped me feel pretty! I am happy to say that since this time in 2019, I have made a lot of progress and have a much more balanced view of myself. Like most people, I continue to have ups and downs… good days and bad. I just try to do my best to not let those bad days last too long.
And to all the busy women out there who may be struggling in the confidence department: do what makes you feel good. For me, my mental health and confidence were closely linked, so spending a few minutes each day doing my makeup really helped boost my confidence, and in turn, my mental state. There is no right or wrong when it comes to what makes you feel beautiful, this is something unique to each of us! And one way is not better than another.

I share my experience and tips with you because even if I could help just one person who might be able to relate to my story, then I feel I will have done my part. I know how isolating these feelings can be when you don’t quite feel like yourself anymore, but please, remember you truly are not alone. There are many women out there who experience similar feelings and I am always here to be a listening ear or a virtual shoulder to cry on if you need someone to talk to.
If you would like a free copy of the routine that helped me during those times, click here! Included with my 5 Minute Makeup Checklist, there is a list of products that have been tried, tested, and approved by myself and a video showing this routine in action, in real time! I hope you enjoy and thank you so much for reading!

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